🐾 I Always Want What I Can’t Have... Why?

I’ve been sitting with this pattern lately—this feeling that no matter how good life is, there’s always something missing. That thing I don’t have yet… the attention from someone who’s inconsistent, the next goal, the fantasy version of love, the "better" version of what I already have.

Even when I have the good stuff—my home, my kids, my clients, my animals, a sweet moment—my mind still wanders. My heart still aches. I tell myself I should be more grateful… but I feel like I’m wired to crave what’s just out of reach.

If you’ve felt this too, let me say: you’re not broken. You’re not ungrateful.
This is a nervous system response. And it makes sense.

Especially if you’ve experienced emotional inconsistency, rejection, or had to work hard for love… your system may have learned that it’s safer to want than to actually have. That longing = love. That “not quite enough” is normal. And even though your soul craves peace and presence… your body might still associate “chasing” with aliveness.

Add in ADHD and a culture obsessed with productivity and fantasy, and yeah—of course it’s hard to just sit still and feel full.

But here’s what I’ve noticed:

My dog doesn’t care how successful I am.
My hamster isn’t dreaming of a “better version” of me.
They don’t need me to be healed or impressive. They just want me.

They’re content with what is. They’re present. They love simply.

And when I let myself soften into their way of being… my heart quiets down.

That’s the invitation of pet medicine—to remember how to be fully here.
To trust what’s already good.
To stop trying to earn love and instead, receive it.

🐶 Tapping Into Enoughness: A Pet-Powered EFT Practice

Let’s use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping to help shift from that restless, “never enough” energy into something more grounded, loving, and real. Let your pet be near you if you can—or simply imagine their presence as you tap.

🌿 Start Here: Ground In

Place one hand on your heart, and the other on your pet—or your belly.
Breathe in deeply, and say to yourself:

“I am safe. I am here. I’m open to loving what I already have.”

👋 Karate Chop Point (Side of the Hand)

Even though I keep wanting what I don’t have…
And sometimes I forget how good my life already is…
I love and honor this part of me. I know it’s just trying to keep me safe.

Even though I struggle to feel satisfied…
And I get caught up in the fantasy or the chase…
I’m willing to feel something different now.
I’m open to the way my pet stays. Loves. Receives.

🌼 Tapping Through the Points

Eyebrow:
I always feel like something’s missing…

Side of Eye:
Like if I just had that one thing, I’d be okay.

Under Eye:
But even when I get what I want, it’s still not enough.

Under Nose:
Maybe I’ve learned to confuse longing with love…

Chin:
Maybe safety feels unfamiliar… or even boring.

Collarbone:
But I don’t want to live in a constant state of chase.

Under Arm:
I want to be here. With what I have. With who I am.

Top of Head:
Like my pet, I want to trust the moment.

🐾 Round Two: Letting the Body Receive

Eyebrow:
I see the pattern. I’m not wrong for it.

Side of Eye:
It makes sense that I crave what’s out of reach.

Under Eye:
But I’m allowed to receive what’s already here.

Under Nose:
I’m allowed to slow down and feel the good.

Chin:
My pet helps me remember how.

Collarbone:
They don’t need me to be more than I am.

Under Arm:
They teach me how to love what’s real.

Top of Head:
And I’m willing to learn.

💗 Close With Gratitude (Hand on Heart)

“I don’t have to chase to feel worthy.”
“I can hold desire and presence at the same time.”
“What I have is beautiful. What I want is valid. But I don’t have to abandon this moment.”
“Like my pet, I can love simply. I can stay.”

Breathe in. Let your body integrate this shift. Let your animal ground you.

🌙 Final Thought: Maybe You’re Not Unsatisfied—Just Unpracticed

What if the problem isn’t that you’re ungrateful…
But that no one taught you how to feel safe in stillness?

This is why pet medicine matters.
Your animal is your reminder that love is here. That peace isn’t something you earn—it’s something you allow.

Try this tapping script a few times this week and see what softens.
You don’t have to give up your dreams.
You just don’t have to miss this moment chasing them.

And if you try this out, I’d love to hear how it lands.

Tag me on Instagram or use #Paws4Wellness to share your experience—we’re all learning to receive and appreciate what we already have.